The school has asked that I not send him to school on Friday
Well Matt is having a hard time getting along in Kindergarten. He is very defiant today after barking like a dog in the hall way his teacher said he couldn't go to PE untill he learned to behave. Well this caused him to freeze up, cross his arms and refuse to listen. After about 30 min of this they called me and told me that I would have to pick him up because they were not going to put him on the bus becasue he was a danger to the other students. They also said that I needed to keep him home friday because they entire school is going to a track meet 30 miles away and they can not be responsiable for him in case he acts this way so far from the school. I had to send my in laws to pick him up sence I was at work so I didn't get to talk to them. My question is that if they are punishing him for his actions today by not letting him go on the field trip shouldn't he still be in school and not at home?
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Lailyn 8 year old girl moody but so happy
Jon 6 year old boy adhd 15mg adderall well behaved when medicated
Matt 5 year old boy abilify 5mg a day still looking to get his moods in line modd disorder NOS
josh 3 year old my sunshine
The story of our lives too. I don't think they should be punsihing him that way. It is not his fault that he struggles with a mood disorder. It is like telling a child with a broken arm he can't come to the science center because he can't have fun with a broken arm. I so wish the school could understand that it is hard for our children to be in school and learning and behaving. They can't just change on demand. They are responsible to educate him. I don't think they can just tell you to keep him at home. We have an advocate who knows the school system and helps us understand our rights. IT has helped us a lot. Schools like to take the easy way out. I know that it is probably different in Canada then where you live but we still all have rights. I would encourage to try and find out your rights. It helps alot. Best to you and your family. One day at a time.
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Gayle - Rhuematoid arthritis, married and stay at home mom - From Canada
10 year old son - depression, low self esteem,
empower plus, omega 3, vitamin d, grape seed extract, meletonin.
He was suspended from the public school system for a year.
Suspension lifted december 2, 2010. YEAHHH Working at intergrating him back into school. He attends school in the afternoons
17 year old son
26 year old daughter, married, one daughter
Is your son in a public or private school?
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Beth
Ralph - Husband & Father
Quinn 16.2 - BP II, NVLD, GAD, Transgender (female to male) and gifted
Geodon 60mg AM/PM, Prozac 10mg PM (tapering off) and Buspar 15mg AM/PM
In 11th grade at Einstein Education Center, a small alternative hybrid competency based public high school in Northern California, with IEP for ED & SLD
Judah (standard poodle), Voldemort (snow corn snake), Salazar (okeetee corn snake) and Malfoy (brown house snake)
Do you have an IEP or 504 for your child? If not, you should start the process right away. If his bahavior is affecting his ability to be educated, he should easily qualify. If he is in a private school receiving no public funding IEP's and 504's will not apply.
As for your specific question: Yes, if he is not allowed to go on the trip, then in theory he should still be in school. In reality he would not be learning anything. Its your call if you want to push the issue. Alternately you could send someone to chapperone him on the trip. For the entire year my dd was in 2nd grade I had to go on all the trips beacause her teacher was unable to control her.
Good luck.
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Karenj
Self: as sane as I can be everyday
A - DD (17yo) well adjusted, high functioning, motivated, successful, waiting patiently to go away to college
M - DD (13yo) Mood Disorder NOS (dx 4/2011) ADHD (dx 2nd grade), dumb high IQ, mainstream education with IEP/BIP, Seroquel 200mg twice daily - morning and bed time; Lamictal 50mg - morning (increasing slowly as needed)
BF - Live in boyfriend of 5 years, supportive and learning more every day
EX - Ex-husband, divorced since 2002, family history of bipolar, unpredictable and sometimes explosive
If your child is in a private school, they can pretty much do what they want. Public schools are another matter! Legally, schools must provide education to all students regardless of their issues. If a child's health is interfering with learning, then the child needs a IEP which will allow appropriate accomodations paid for by the school to ensure your child can participate. Public schools cannot say "your child causes too much trouble, so we aren't taking them." The IDEA says they have to. As far as PE goes, in our state there is state legislation that says children have to have a certain number of minutes of physical activity per day. Therefore, they cannot be taken out of PE for behavior (or any other) issues. I would make an appointment with your school's psychologist or social worker or special education director. You do have rights, but you may have to fight for them in order to get an IEP. (By the way, if your child's teacher is having problems, he/she might be your best advocate for needing an IEP, because that helps her!) Good luck!
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JenAB